In this section, you’ll find examples of scenarios you can use, either in person or online, to provide opportunities for participants to practise using the knowledge they’ve gained.

These scenarios provide helpful tips on what to say to students in different situations. If you don’t have time for practice and discussion, try to allow some time to briefly review some of the responses. You can provide the scenarios as a handout or PDF (see Handout 2: Responding to Students in Distress).

Scenarios Pairs Activity

Ask participants to work in pairs to talk through some possible things to say to the student. Give the participants one of the six scenarios provided below to discuss together. (For online sessions, use breakout rooms.)

We’ve provided six scenarios of students who need support. Working in pairs, you can either role play or discuss together how you might respond and offer support to the student in this scenario. This is a chance to think through how to express your care and concern for the student and offer support and any further resources that seem appropriate. Also consider the perspective of the student, referring to the Wellness Wheel.

Questions to discuss as a group:

  • How might you respond and offer support to the student?
  • What services might you suggest to the student?
  • Who might you consult with?
  • How does it feel to imagine offering support to the students in the scenarios?
  • How was it to ask (or not ask) about suicide?

An important thing to remember is that you don’t have to have all the answers for students, and you don’t have to act as a counsellor. You can really support students by opening up a conversation, showing your care and respect, and inviting them to access support services.

Options for Scenarios

The following six scenarios offer participants opportunities to think about and practise responding to situations of students in distress. People may also want to read and reflect on them in their own time.

Encourage participants to use these scenarios as starting points, not scripts, for discussions and continued thought about how we can respond with empathy to students while recognizing and honouring their strengths and capacity to achieve balance.

Scenario 1: Student who failed an exam

A student has just found out they failed an exam and starts to cry while talking to their instructor.

Key points

  • Highlight support and empathy while recognizing the capacity of the student
  • Set a boundary
  • Facilitate a referral

Possible staff/faculty response

I can see that you are upset about the exam. I can hear the disappointment in your voice. You’ve said that you don’t feel that you can stay to attend the class, but I’m concerned about having you leave like this. I want to support you, but I have to teach this class right now. I wonder if you’d be willing to talk to a counsellor? It’s confidential. Would it help you to have someone from class or a friend walk over with you? Who will you ask? Let me call Counselling Services and tell them to expect you.

Scenario 2: Indigenous student needing leave time for a family death

An Indigenous student comes into your office upset. They disclose to you that a close relative has just died unexpectedly, and they are stressed about how to ask their instructors for leave time from classes to go home for the ceremony and funeral. They explain to you that cultural protocols regarding the death of a family member are elaborate and can take up to a week or more to complete. They feel overwhelmed because they want to be home with their family and community, but they also have upcoming projects due in many of their courses. They express feelings of hopelessness during this interaction.

Key points

  • Highlight support and empathy while recognizing the capacity of the student.
  • Connect the student with staff from Indigenous Services (or Student Services if your campus does not have Indigenous Services. Student Services can connect the student with local Indigenous supports).
  • Provide a referral to campus and community supports.
  • Provide student support in their advocacy to instructors.

Possible staff/faculty response

I am so sorry to hear about your loss; dealing with grief while trying to manage other responsibilities can be so challenging. I commend you for your resilience in such a difficult time; you are actively looking for support and that is important to honour in yourself.

Are there any cultural supports here that I can assist you in connecting with? Have you spoken with the staff in Indigenous Services? As for advocating for your needs with your instructors for leave time, I am happy to help you navigate that process – there are ways to make a request to your instructors for an extension on any class work or assignments. Shall we map out how you can email your instructors? Would you like me to connect you with Indigenous Services? I can introduce you to the staff there if you don’t already know them. I think they’ll be really receptive to supporting you in your request to the instructors as well and might have community or cultural supports that you can use.

Scenario 3: International student who failed an exam

An international student who is on probation has just failed an exam. The student fears they will be suspended and forced to go back to their home country, but they would be a disgrace to their family and they couldn’t face them. The student says that they can’t see any other option but to end it all.

Key points

  • Highlight support and empathy while recognizing the capacity of the student
  • Ask about suicide
  • Facilitate a referral or follow-up

Possible staff/faculty response

I can see that you are upset about the exam. I can hear the disappointment in your voice and understand the fear about what will happen for you. When you say you might end it, I wonder if you mean you are thinking about suicide? I want to support you to be safe and to have a good outcome from this challenging time. I wonder if you’d be willing to talk to a counsellor? It’s confidential and I think it’s a wise thing to do. I’d like to walk over there with you.

If the student refuses, you could say, Another option is for us to call the crisis line together right now so you can talk with them and find out about some resources.

If the student says no, you could say, I care about you and am worried about you, so for me to feel comfortable, I need to have someone contact you to see how you’re doing and help support you.

Scenario 4: Student who didn’t receive financial aid (student loan)

A student presents as agitated and tearful. The student just found out they didn’t get a student loan. They talked to their parents, who are clear about not giving them money. They have paid their fees for courses but will not have enough money to get through the semester and are considered dropping out.

Key points

  • Highlight support and empathy while recognizing the capacity of the student
  • Facilitate a referral or follow-up

Possible staff/faculty response

I’m sorry that you are having such a difficult time. I can see how upsetting this is to you and how much you want to take these classes. Have you spoken about your concerns with someone at the Financial Aid office? Are you aware of where they are located? Have you spoken to the chair of your department or to Academic Advising?

Do you have anyone to talk to about this? Perhaps you’d find it helpful to talk with someone in Counselling Services about making a plan for next steps. They are just down the hall. I can walk you there if you like. If you need support after hours you can also call the crisis line for support; here is their number.

Scenario 5: Transgender student who is facing discrimination and isolation

A student who has disclosed to you in the past that they are transgender approaches you in tears. When you ask what is happening, they tell you that they were home with their family over the holiday break and they “came out” to their family. The family’s response was not supportive, and the student tells you their parents made hurtful and derogatory comments during the discussion. The student makes statements like “This is so difficult. I can’t keep going like this,” and ”I don’t know why I even try anymore; my own parents don’t love me or accept me for who I am.” I am tired of having to validate myself and who I am.” They share other more general feelings of loneliness and hopelessness.

Key points

  • Highlight support and empathy while recognizing the capacity of the student.
  • Thank them for confiding this difficult incident to you and explain you can refer them to resources in the institution or community as appropriate.
  • Validate their experience and recognize (if appropriate) that while you do not personally know what this experience is like for them that you can see this is extremely difficult for the student.
  • Ask the student if they have connected with their student union or the LGBTQ2S+ community on campus or in the surrounding community for additional support.
  • Ask about suicide or self-harm.
  • Highlight the student’s strengths and resilience that they have demonstrated so far and that their identity is valued. Tell them they are seen, heard, and celebrated at your institution.

Possible staff/faculty response

Thank you for sharing this with me, I can appreciate this is such a difficult time for you and this has a significant impact on your well-being. While I don’t personally know what it’s like to identify in the LGBTQ2S+ community and not have the support or acceptance of your family, I can appreciate that this is a fundamentally important aspect of your well-being. Do you have any ideas on how I might be able to support you through this?

Have you connected with our Pride Centre or Student Union office on campus? I am happy to walk you over there now if you would like.

I have heard you make some statements around feeling hopeless and losing a sense of purpose in your life generally. Are you having any thoughts of self-harm or suicide? We have counselling services on campus that are confidential and free for all students; can I walk you down to their office so you can meet them and see if it would be a good fit to talk with one of their team?

If the student says no you, could say: Another option is for us to call the crisis line together right now so you can talk with them and find out about some resources.

I want you to know that I support you; you are a valued and important member of our campus community. I would like to support you in any way that I can to know that you are seen, valued, and celebrated here on campus.

Scenario 6: Student who is showing major changes in behaviour

You noticed a student in class who has been wearing the same clothes on a few occasions and looks somewhat dishevelled. They appear tense at times and other times they’ve seemed sleepy in class. Last class you walked by them and wondered if you smelled alcohol. They have been handing in their assignments but doing mediocre, and their grades have been dropping. The most recent assignment wasn’t handed in. You feel concerned but not sure if all of these observations are enough reason to act.

Key points

  • Consult with colleagues – talk with the chair/dean.
  • Consult with Counselling Services. Phone to talk through situations and find out about possible resources. Talk through how they might structure the conversation with the student.
  • If ready to take on this role, request a meeting with the student. In that conversation, highlight support and empathy while recognizing the capacity of the student. Then, facilitate a referral or follow-up.

Possible staff/faculty response

Thank you for meeting with me. I’ve been feeling concerned about how you are doing. I can see that you are motivated to be here as your attendance has been good. At the beginning you seemed enthusiastic about the material and discussions. However you seem tense and tired. Your grades have been going down and your last assignment was late. Last class I wondered if I smelled alcohol. I wonder how you are doing and I’m concerned you are going through a challenging time that is interfering with your ability to do as well as you can at school.

I’m glad that we are talking, although I feel that it’s beyond my scope/role to talk to you in detail about what’s happening. I’ve found that in times of challenge it’s helpful to get support for myself. Seeking help is courageous, not weak, and shows you are committed to working through the hard times. Do you have someone you can talk to? Have you considered accessing Counselling Services to talk or find out about resources? It’s confidential.

There are other supports on campus, and I wonder if you are aware of them and if anything would be useful to you. The campus website lists all of the student resources in one place: I’m happy to show it to you. The crisis line is also good to know about as they can provide support and ideas of community resources.

Text Attributions

  • This chapter was adapted from Capacity to Connect: Supporting Students from Distress to Suicide. © Vancouver Island University. Adapted by Barbara Johnston and Jewell Gillies. CC BY 4.0 license.


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